Retirement ushers in a new phase of life that is typically marked by expectations, as well as adjustments and new routines.
Many adventures and possibilities lie ahead – just waiting to be seized upon.
For couples it’s a chance to spend more time together, engage in common hobbies, and establish new routines. If you are single,however, it may be a different experience – if you don’t prepare.
I asked Counsellor Dr Anthony Perrone to comment:
‘Couples can achieve a balance that meets their individual needs and objectives by having effective communication and providing one another with support during this change. Couples who are retired may have the opportunity to strengthen their bond, discover new interests together, and enjoy the freedom that comes with this period of life. It’s a time to rejoice in their shared experience and anticipate their upcoming adventures.
There is a saying that goes something like; listen to your elders…So before you set off into the sunset of sandy beaches and warm sea breezes, make sure you do your homework, which includes talking to retirees, who have been there and done that.
Recently while speaking with an older retiree friend, I asked how his retirement was going.
The reason for my asking was because there was a ‘re-location’ to a senior beach resort community from a cold city environment. Away from friends and family. His reply was a simple one, ‘If I knew retirement was going to be this good, I would have done it sooner’.
A major factor for his making this statement was my friend already had established hobbies such as; golf, bocce, bike riding, puzzles, crosswords, playing his guitar, social clubs, volunteering and so on. Being on his own also meant he needed to be more extroverted as well. Whereas those who already have a partner have the benefit of the 2 factor thereby expanding social and extracurricular activities.
Photo: Jaddy Liu
By being active, practising mindfulness, continuing to learn and giving back, for most people life satisfaction increases in the years following retirement, showing with some preparation, this can be one of the best times of your life. This satisfaction is often linked with establishing and working towards goals, an essential ingredient to a successful retirement, especially one that includes a sea or tree change.
The Australian Institute of Family Studies recommends, the earlier you can begin planning, as well as preparing, the better. You then can consider the impact on your life and create the required strategies. Look at all the variables, the pros and cons.
According to national mental health organisation SuperFriend, there are ways to ensure you also maintain wellbeing throughout the entire journey.
For example; try a new hobby, rediscover something you used to like to do or learning new things that will boost your confidence. Acting positively towards others thereby bonding links in the community that will reward you with a stronger sense of belonging. Above all, find the balance that’s right for you, one that helps you make the most of your retirement years’.
Dr Anthony Perrone is a Counsellor (PhD, BA Psych)